Idiot forgot her mom's birthday. Now what?
September 16, 2010 7:58 AM Subscribe
I am a terrible person. I completely forgot my mother's birthday. My family takes this stuff seriously. What can I do now?
posted by micawber to human relations (13 answers total)
I literally just looked at the calendar and remembered that my mother's birthday was Saturday. I have absolutely zero excuse that I forgot. I just forgot.
I have it written in calendars, it doesn't ever escape me that my mother's birthday is 9/11 - in fact, while she now walks around saying "I don't have a birthday any more" I have made it a point since 2003, at least, to make sure her birthday is commemorated.
I didn't even call. I didn't call because I just didn't remember.
This is not a minor deal, this is a huge deal. It is probably a bigger deal than it should be, but these are the rules my family plays by.
I am going to call her at work and apologize right now, but I need to come up with something big I can do. I am taking them out to brunch next weekend since my dad's birthday is also this month (I had planned specifically to celebrate them both at once so I didn't have to make two trips) but I gotta make up for the lack of call.
I have sent flowers. I have bought jewelry. I have taken her to afternoon tea. I have purchased theater tickets. She is 70 years old, she doesn't really need much.
I need something that really says "I am a terrible daughter".
I also need the gesture to be sufficient in my father's eyes. Because he will be a complete and total bastard (more than he already is right now) because it will bother him more than her that I forgot.
Please do not tell me that birthdays are stupid, or so you forgot one time. I do not need help remembering. I just need some advice on grand gestures that will show my contrition. I can't take her on a trip or anything like that due to her health at the moment.
I just don't even know what happened.