How to Get Talked to
September 14, 2010 8:58 AM Subscribe
How do I make it easier for others to initiate a conversation with me in the context of online dating?
posted by cmoj to human relations (12 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a straight mid-20's male on OKCupid if it matters.
I've noticed, browsing profiles, that even if I find a girl interesting and attractive if there's no "opening" for me to talk about something in a message other than "Hey, you're cool wanna go out?" then I won't send anything. If this is an actual phenomenon then I'm sure my profile suffers from it too since it's in no way strategically crafted. The trouble is, I can't really put my finger on what creates that opening.
So, how do I provide that opening in my own profile? Or is my picture of how all this works wildly inaccurate?