How do you ask someone out on Facebook?
September 12, 2010 6:24 PM Subscribe
Is there any non-creepy way to make contact with a girl you only kind of knew 8 years ago in high school and you find out is single and in your town?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (34 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
This whole thing is sort of embarrassing for some reason, but in high school I sat next to this girl in class. We flirted, but nothing really came of it. I hadn't really thought of her sense, but I do remember that we got along really, really well. Why we never socialized outside of class, I don't know.
I was visiting some friends and playing around on their Facebook account. I stumbled upon her page and find out she's in my city and she's single. In the way only a Facebook page can encapsulate, I find out we have a lot of the same interests. It has been several weeks and for some reason, I can't get her out of my mind.
I don't have a Facebook account, I just never set one up. My immediate thought was to just setup an account and see if she wants to meet up for coffee. My friends told me that this would be weird as not having a Facebook account is in itself an odd thing, and if I ask her out with only two or three friends it will be come apparent that I just setup the account to talk to her, etc.
We have no mutual friends, and I'm at a complete loss as to what to do. My friends have been telling me to just show up to a concert they know she's going to, again, due to damn Facebook updates, and just "run into her." This seems a little too romantic comedy, and would probably more likely result in me running around a concert looking for someone.
At this point I'm thinking there's no way to approach this, and I should either just drop it, or get an account, friend her and ask her out. How viable is the latter? What's the social etiquette for being listed as single on the Facebook, is it like a dating site? I assume if I put myself as single on an internet site, that people asking me out on a date would be something I should expect, but not having the experience, I don't know how things work.