How do I rebuild trust and relationships with my family?
September 10, 2010 2:45 PM Subscribe
How can I rebuild my relationship with my SO and my parents when someone seems set to undermine it?
posted by anonymous to human relations (6 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
The relationship is being worked on, and it feels like someone is trying to pry it apart...
My SO has had issues with my family, and we have been working through them. Part of what has been keeping her sane has been keeping off of each others toes, and she found an online group where she was with peers and could vent. This site requires a login to read, and additionally the subsection she posted to has a policy concerning external dissemination (read: don't) though offline isn't really specified. However, someone's been talking...
My father called me and asked concerning some information that would only have been posted there. I've dealt with the immediate concern there, but I have no idea who told him, he won't tell me. SO and I have been trying to improve feelings between my family and my SO, but this just feels like a massive setback in relationships. How can we best deal with the feeling that we cannot trust anyone involved?
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(Additional background: I come from a cohesive family with parents still together, SO does not. We feel SO is being judged for that at times, as my parents are rather conservative.)