Can we have any semblance of a wedding in the NYC area when we're not rich? Do you know any dirt-cheap event spaces in Brooklyn or Queens that we can use to accommodate 75 people? Catering and decorating tips for the impoverished? We've got 13 months to plan, lots of motivation, but the piggy bank is low.
I wouldn't mind smuggling a bottle of Prosecco into city hall, but part of me gets wistful for the celebratory aspect of a wedding: wearing a fun dress and hanging out with our loved ones. Tulle and china plates need not be present, but the accomplished hostess in me simply dies when I think of how much fun it would be to have all our favorite people celebrate with us. Since 80% of our friends also live in NYC/Brooklyn, leaving them behind to have the wedding in cheaper areas is out of the question. Googling "cheap wedding nyc" turns up couples lamenting on message boards that they only have $15-20K to spend on a wedding. I'd cry if I spent $8000 on the Wedding Industrial Complex ($8000 is a year's worth of rent!), and I don't want to start our marriage off in piles debt. My bare bones requirements used to be a cool dress and an open bar, but even the latter is something like $5000.
Cost-cutting ideas thusfar, and please tell me if they're ludicrous and/or unfeasible:
-Holding wedding just outside NYC and busing friends to the event
-Doing my own make up and hair
-Baking wedding cupcakes
-Asking a talented friend to take our pictures
-Asking another talented friend to make the dress (I'll pay for supplies)/turning a cheap dress into a wedding dress
-Having a cocktail reception rather than a sit-down meal
-Having the dinner be a potluck affair (this seems extraordinarily tacky to me)
-Showing up at a large bar around 5pm, have everyone buy their own food and drinks from them, and call it a day
Yes, I have seen the $2000 wedding
, which is helpful to a certain extent but wasn't held in the New York area.
I'd appreciate guidance for cheap event spaces, other ways to cut corners, and anecdata from your own inexpensive wedding in NYC or elsewhere.