I'm a virgin and my girlfriend has HPV. Need some advice about what I should do and what is or is not safe. (Probably NSFW)
We are both in our mid-20s, she has had only a few sexual partners and I have never done anything more serious than making out. We have been together for a month and she recently told me that the reason we haven't gotten more physical is that she has HPV. She is not sure which strain, but she dated a guy a few months ago, started seeing symptoms, and went to the doctor and was diagnosed. I really like her and do not want to end the relationship over this.
I know that HPV is extremely common, and yet there is still a significant stigma against it (the dating section of the hpvforum
is not giving me a lot of confidence) and it can have serious repercussions. The one good thing I guess is that if she had warts it is probably a lower-risk strain. I know that as a male it is unlikely that I will even see symptoms if I get it, but I care about the other women that I could theoretically be sexually active with in the future. I also know that there is a vaccine that protects against some of the strains available for men now, which is possibly the only case where being a 20-something-year-old virgin is an advantage.
Condoms do not fully protect against it, and I have read a lot of conflicting information about how it can be spread (apparently even through kissing
, so I could already have it). So, should I be holding off on actual sex until the infection clears? How would I even know when that happens? Should I get the (expensive) vaccine, hope it protects against this particular strain, and wait six months for it to take effect? Even if I do wait, what exactly can we do that is safe? Is giving oral with a barrier safe, or receiving oral? Manual stimulation? Being naked in the same room together? This whole sex thing is more complicated than I thought it would be.