Stopping the inner crazy
August 21, 2010 9:33 AM Subscribe
How do I stop worrying that history will repeat itself in regards to my relationship?
posted by daysocks to Human Relations (16 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 21 year old girl and can't shake the feeling that my new relationship will end like all (all three of them, heh) the others.
In my first relationship, my boyfriend told me after 7 months that he didn't love me, he never had and he'd only told me that he did to keep me happy (despite him saying it first). The second, he randomly cut off all contact after 8 months and when I finally confronted him he said it was because he wanted to pursue other people (it was a semi-long distance relationship, a few hours apart). And the third, three months in, went from loving to breaking up with me because he'd decided he wasn't in love with me in the space of a day.
How do I fight the phobia that my new boyfriend will do the same thing? I know it's irrational and I hate thinking that because he hasn't returned my call yet he's gone off me. It's crazy!