How to deal with an insensitive friend.
August 17, 2010 3:24 PM Subscribe
Suggestions on how to deal with a friend who is unwittingly insensitive to others despite being quite sensitive herself. I would like to figure out a tactful way to push back on specific insensitive comments. What is the best way to do this?
posted by E-Boogie to Human Relations (5 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I love this friend and do not want to end the friendship. I do limit my time I spend in close quarters.
I am very close to her, and am one of the few people who can push back with her, and one of the few people she very rarely opens up to. The reason for this, is because she is estranged and essentially abandoned by her mother. I also have had similar experiences so we connect on this level.
Examples of her insensitivity:
- constant negative comments
- others plan thing and/or do things for her, never any acknowledgment
- never doing things for other people
Once I said to her, "It's hard when you always say negative things." And she said "that's cause there's nothing good to say." I have kind of decided that I want to push back a little more on her behavior.
Some of you may ask why am I friends with this person. She is fun, and funny and smart and we have common interests. So here is my question.
What is the best way to approach this situation?
How to handle someone who is very sensitive and doesn't take criticism well?
How to handle someone who is deeply insecure?