How can I get my violent brother out of my mom's senior apartment? Social workers, especially those who work with the elderly, your help is greatly needed.
My drunken, violent brother is living with my mom in her senior apartment. (some background on the situation here
.) I just received a phone call from one of her neighbors, who wanted to let me know that they had overheard my brother screaming at my mom and threatening her. I called and spoke with my mom, and she gave me the usual "it's fine, it's just how he always is, don't come over" spiel. I decided not to go over there because they are both drunk and I don't want to escalate the situation, especially in light of the fact that she will just let him back into her apartment, and it will only be worse. He called me and tried to argue his side, and I just told him "If I hear anything like this again, I will call the police."
The problem with this is that I have already called the police when he hit my mom and stole her ATM card. My brother's ex-wife called my mom and got her to drop the charges, and my brother was back on my mom's couch within the week. My mom, as you may have guessed, is a huge enabler to my brother, as he is to her. If I bring the cops in on this, and I can't get anything to stick, then I will just be guaranteeing that I will NEVER hear from her when things get bad, because she'd rather put up with the drunken violence than change the situation.
My mom is not allowed to have anyone living with her in the apartment. I'm pretty much sure that everyone there knows he's staying there, and they are turning a blind eye to the situation. My question is can I force this situation to change without my mom losing her apartment? There is no way she can stay with me, I'm unemployed and live in a studio apartment. My first impulse is to call the building management and let them know what's going on. My mom would very likely obey them, even if she won't protect herself. If I do this will she be kicked out? Is there some other organization I can call that can force him to leave? She will not cooperate in this, it will have to be by force. Honestly, at this point, I almost want to just let them kill each other and remove the problem. The apartment is manage by HUD, she lives in Oakland, California.