I have decided to significantly alter my career path. There's no urgency except for that which I self-impose: That is, I want to be taking real steps towards change each and every day to maintain my sanity (and therefore my paycheck) in my current career. And then I'll jump ship a little bit before it feels safe to do so.
posted by zeek321 to Work & Money (13 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I have an advanced math/science/tech/programming background and that's mostly what my resume looks like. Doing math/science/tech/programming stuff is slowly killing me.* In other words, I'm working mostly alone on long-term, amorphous, poorly managed projects that 1) are not helping me become a better, more complete, more whole version of myself, and 2) are not helping me exercise my ideological and political agency in this beautiful, broken world.
Several experiences have helped point towards what I want to do, all involving intense, high-stakes, high-emotion dialogues where truth was up for grabs and there were multiple elephants in the room:
1. Jury duty. Yes, this was a toy problem with toy rules. But it was still amazing. Seven hours from stubborn, belligerent deadlock to warmth, mutual understanding, and consensus.
2. An almost breakup. Nine hours. Anger, confusion, crying, multiple elephants, love, no real answers--some of the tools didn't exist before we started--mutual understanding, new language, it all had to be co-created on the spot. Emotions had to be self-regulated brilliantly on both sides to prevent a walk-out, and insight was pulled out of nothing. We seriously worked some real magic between us. Still together.
3. I initiated some Meetup.com groups. It's been amazing to have conversations where I wasn't bracketing myself, "manufacturing interest," dredging up some shreds of genuine something and wringing blood from a stone in order to have a conversation. I was interested. I was expressing myself spontaneously about things that were important to me. It was where I wanted to be. It was fun. People were laughing and smiling. It was actually me, just talking, just being me. Effortless.
I'm 29. I'm in Philly and want to stay here for a while. Moving somewhere else on the East Coast or to Chicago, Toronto, or Vancouver is a possibility within one to three years. (Only USA citizenship at the moment.) I have about four months of savings, taking into account health insurance.
1. Your success story, please. How did you have to change your thinking? What are the physical, visible things you did to make something happen?
2. Eclectic resume upload sites? Surely, networking is the supposed smart way. But the internet often creates real-world serendipity for me, and it'll help me further articulate what I want to do.
3. Where should I go in Philly? What events should I attend? Who should I talk to?
4. Random ideas? Let's assume I'm fearless and brilliant in every way for the purposes of this question.
5. Just for completeness... Just to throw this out there... I don't really want a job, ever again. I want my freedom... I want my life, on my own terms, my interests, my curiosity. Fuck bosses and fuck anyone telling me where to be and how to use my time, ever.
6. Please do not inject any negativity, caution, "being realistic," or reframing into this thread. I'm feeling fragile. (*The reason for this question is that I had a series of panic attacks. I've never had a panic attack before. Yes, I now have a wicked-smart, kind, old-lady therapist.) Thank you.