Herpes and swinging
August 12, 2010 11:51 AM Subscribe
Is disclosing herpes in a personal ad for swinging partners a breach of etiquette? (probably nsfw)
posted by anonymous to human relations (6 answers total)
Several years ago I read a post online from someone who claimed he had placed a personal ad on a swingers' website, in which he disclosed that he had herpes.
He said he received a strongly-worded email from a regular on the swinger site who told him that this sort of disclosure wasn't done.
They implied that there was an unspoken "don't ask, don't tell" expectation in swinger culture, as if it were simply accepted as a risk of the lifestyle but they didn't want people publicly disclosing so as not to reflect badly on the swinging community, or something.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Was somebody pulling somebody's leg or is this just common knowledge to those involved in the lifestyle? It seems far-fetched but back when I was looking into swinging I don't think I ever saw any explicit advice or rules to the contrary from swing clubs, mostly just stuff like "play at your own risk, condom use recommended." I've wondered about this for years.
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