No Grandchild, Sorry!
August 12, 2010 2:17 AM Subscribe
How do I handle the demand, "Give me a grandchild?"
posted by The ____ of Justice to human relations (36 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
Husband and I (heading towards our 40s) have no children. We are not planning on having any children.
My mom wants grandchildren very badly. (I have siblings that will probably give them to her...not just in the near future.) Every time I see her, she basically tells me I'm nuts and I need to have a child because having children was the only thing she felt was worthwhile.
She says I'm getting too old, better do it soon. I tell her if I ever even think about having a child (which I don't), I'd adopt anyways...and then she goes ballistic and then our conversation ends. (So I guess it's not just having a child that is important to her, but it has to be borne of my own blood.)
How do I keep her off my back about having children? I really feel like this is threatening to become a sore spot in our already not-always-the-best relationship. I do want to be on good terms with her, but her insistence is getting annoying. Shall I just accept that she's going to be stubborn about this, and humor her for the rest of our lives? Any tips appreciated.