Deviating from wedding registries--how gauche is it?
August 8, 2010 5:25 PM Subscribe
I'm attending a wedding next weekend, of a couple that has irritated me throughout the course of their tumultuous engagement. I've looked over their many registries, and have found nothing that I consider worthwhile or practical to give in my price range. What are my other alternatives?
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The bride is family to my husband, and I've known the groom by way of his family for over ten years. Their engagement was on-again/off-again, and irritating at best--first from their excessively public and saccharine displays of their relationship, then by the excessively public and drama-filled displays of their broken engagement, then by their equally excessively public and saccharine displays of their re-engagement. A slew of seemingly gift-happy invitations to engagement parties and various showers did not help the situation. I was happy about this relationship to begin with, but their behavior throughout the course of their engagements has left me with more than a sour taste in my mouth.
I'm having a difficult time deciding what to do about a wedding gift. I would love to give them something thoughtful and useful--I generally put a great deal of thought into my gift-giving endeavors, and I take great pleasure in finding that "perfect gift"--but their registries have left me cold. They seem to have gone through the stores where they registered like kids in a candy store, rather than putting thought into what they would actually need and use in setting up their new home. I realize that may be an unfair judgment to make, but I'd rather not buy them a fondue set that I'm fairly certain will sit in the back of their storage closet for years to come.
The best idea I could come up with for an acceptable wedding gift to deviate from the registry for is an Ikea gift card--but would that be considered rude and improper? They are a very young couple, both living away from home for the first time, so I figured Ikea would be a great place to "fill in" the gaps of what they didn't register for. What would you give as an alternative to a registry item?