How to ask a guy for casual sex?
August 5, 2010 6:53 PM Subscribe
How should a female bring up the idea of having casual sex to a man?
posted by anonymous to human relations (39 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Here's the whole story: I am single and in my late 20s. I am single by choice. There's a lot to it, but I just don't want to be in a relationship right now. But I wouldn't mind a little sex. So, my hot neighbor approached me the other day with his phone number and told me to call if I ever wanted a drink. I do not know anything about him; we are not friends, and we've never even spoken to one another. He appears to be in a similar situation to me: that is, he seems to work a lot and is home on the weekends, probably too tired to go out and have much of a social life.
I realize that there is a possibility that I could go for a drink with him and fall head over heels and want to be in a relationship, but really, I know me, and I suspect that I am just going to want sex.
I have no reason to think he has a crush on me or anything, as we have never spoken, so there is this part of me that thinks maybe he has the same idea. But, I can tell that he has manners, and I'm worried he's not going to bring it up, and then we might end up with some awkward situation because we both just wanted a lay but were too polite to bring it up.
So, how should I approach this? The only thing that is stopping me from just saying it is that we live across the hall from each other. Should that even bother me? Like I said, we've lived across the hall from each other for years and have never spoken to each other. I guess I'm just a little worried about what he might think of me.