How do I get out of seeing my boyfriend's band?
July 30, 2010 9:57 PM Subscribe
Can't I just stay home and make you a potroast instead?
posted by custard heart to human relations (44 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I just started seeing a fellow about a month ago and we clicked instantly -- saying "i love you"s, basically cohabitating. Thought I've always been the lone wolf type, I can really see this one being the dude for me.
So -- he's gone on tour with his band for a month and is playing my town in a few weeks. I've never seen or heard them before. He's also a filmmaker -- something that I'm interested in so he can't accuse me of being unenthusiastic about his work. Now, I'm a little older than I used to be. I'm maybe in my tenth year of listening to the dudes I date talk about their bands, and going to shows, and that general sort of thing. Frankly I'm a little sick of it. SO -- it probably makes me a crappy person but I REALLY do not want to go stand through a few hours worth of probably mediocre music. I don't want to stand around and be 'the girlfriend' at this thing, I don't feel like going and being gracious and sweet and complimentary and blah blah.
So --- as a new girlfriend, is there any way I can finagle my way out of this? What are some plausible explanations I could provide to bail? He knows that i work nights, but I make my schedule a week in advance and can definitely get the time off. And please -- telling him the truth about how I just don't want to go is not an option. I know that's just mean!