Tacit golden rules for work
July 7, 2010 7:56 PM Subscribe
I am having a little trouble at work...with all the unspoken rules and expectations. I don't have anyone to teach me these things nor do I have enough/any work experience to learn..and I'd like to learn these things fast!
posted by xm to Work & Money (30 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
Before I start, I am NOT talking about work ethics. The problem is I am very direct. Most relationships suck because people are too afraid to speak the truth because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I think work should be a place where people should be direct but it seems like there is a whole different dynamics going on. I want to learn the dos and don't s at work and I'd like to hear all stories. A couple of examples (more topics/scenarios and comments are welcome)-
1. Working hours- there are people who stick around till the boss is around and they take such long lunch breaks that you'd think they forgot its a working day. What's the thing to do? I know this scenario won't be possible in a lot of fields but lets assume for clarity that you are a research associate in a lab.
2. Deadlines- the boss gives an unreasonable deadline...(apparently trying to test how you work under pressure!?) - do you agree and a) do as much as you can and then deal with it on the doomsday, b) you say that it wont be possible and ask for more time (does that make you look incompetent?).
3. The boss never openly provides constructive criticism but loves to talk behind everyone's back. How the heck do you figure out when he means what s/he says and when is s/he unhappy with you/your work?
How do you learn to read between the lines correctly when your personality is to say what you mean and nothing else?
I am not looking for statements like,"This is not normal" or "This is a toxic environment". I normally avoid the guess-culture people (still in the process of finding that mefi reply..) in personal life and that really keeps me sane but I'd say that at least 50% people at work also fall in this category. Help me learn to navigate with these personality types!
Any tips and comments from employers regarding what they love about their employees and things they never want to hear from the employees are also welcome. Also, please mention your area of work and what are the things an employee can do to become your favourite employee or something.