Should I Stay Or Should I Go Now?
July 7, 2010 8:28 AM Subscribe
I think I want to move but don't know how, nor if it's wise to do so right now.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (5 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
For the last 20 years, I have lived in the same small suburb in Southern California. There are many things that I enjoy about this area, like the relative lack of traffic, and the ability to be in San Diego or Los Angeles within an hour or so (depending on the time of day). And of course there are all the things there are to do in those cities and the cities around them, like the zoos, the museums, the clubs, the music shows, and the ability to get out and be in nature without having to drive too far from civilization.
But it has its downfalls, too. The job market is limited. There's is very little to do locally, and fewer places to meet people who are around my age and share my kind of interests (tabletop RPGs, sci-fi movies and literature, anime, all the things I mentioned in the previous paragraph... those kinds of things), which of course makes trying to date even worse. I haven't met anyone who lives less than 30 minutes away in over five years, outside of co-workers. It's still two hours to drive to get back from to a major city where most of the things I like to do are. And in the summer when the temperatures creep up past the low 80's, I tend to become a hermit because hot weather does nothing but make me lethargic and irritable. I'd love to live somewhere with more greenery and more rain.
I am currently unemployed (and getting close to the end of my UI benefits), in my early 30's, and I graduated from college two years ago with an undergrad degree in psychology and $40k in loan debt. Between that and car payments/insurance, I am only on my feet financially because I moved back in with my father several years ago and he doesn't charge me any rent.
I do not know if I want to continue to pursue psychology into a grad degree. I haven't even taken a GRE. I do know that if I decide to go to grad school, I want to get it done sooner rather than later. My interest in the subject has waned since I graduated, and occasionally I wonder if I shouldn't have given more effort into exploring my interest in architecture or some other field of study.
Also, as a side note, I have been rather depressed lately. I think it's actually a long-standing issue that needs to be addressed but I am feeling stagnant and directionless and all of these things are just compounding that problem and are also a drain on what little motivation I have.
For all of these reasons, I am thinking about moving somewhere. Getting a fresh start and a new perspective somewhere else in the world (probably still State-side, though, and probably still in Cali unless I find a compelling reason to move elsewhere and pay non-resident fees for a year if I go to grad-school). I feel a bit clueless about how to job hunt for a serious job (previous employment has all been retail), much less how to do so in a place that I don't live, and then to also try to find housing. I also own a cat, and don't really know anyone that I could leave him with if I went to another town to job hunt for a while.
So that's my story, MeFites. I await your wisdom.
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