Did she take the easy way out?
July 2, 2010 11:02 AM Subscribe
Did she just take the easy way out or am I just that guy? About 8 months ago I started talking to a girl I have known for many years. She is 7 years younger than me and I never noticed her until boom she magically grew up. I always thought she was a loser ( hung around with the wrong crowd made bad choices). We began talking every so often then it turned into a daily ritual txt, fb, and phone call situation once she got rid of her BF. I slowly began to develop feelings and we started hangin out when....
posted by SleeveHearted to Human Relations (36 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
The shortest version........When we started to hang out it was amazing to the point she couldn't deny it. Nothing happend between us like that but we had become great friends amazing I should say. The click factor was definatly there and it got to the point where we talked about it and laughed about it but her response was, "I don't want to loose the friendship." being a guy i took this to mean what it normally does 1.SHES JUST NOT THAT INTO ME 2. no warm fuzzies 3. not attracted to me in that way. Upon furthur investigation of the above 3 I come to find out she would say how she is atracted to me and that she would be with me if she didnt have to fear getting hurt. Understandable, so I set out with new confidence and backed off to see if maybe it would just happen on its own. One day we went for Ice cream with her niece. She came and picked me up we drove around till we found a DQ and had a blast laughing and carrying on. She drops me off and later I realize she has changed her FB Status to "in a relationship" and my name wasnt listed below..... needless to say i didnt handle that well and i have cut off communication, it has been about 45 days and I still cant shake it. She begs me back into her life as a friend. Am I right for walking away? I truly believe in my heart she took the easy way out, the option that she could walk from and not get hurt. I believe she wants me in her life to get everything she cant get from him and was hiding it the whole time. Should I mend the friendship and chalk the chance at more as a loss or hold my ground? I struggle moving on cause nothing else interests me like her! Ive been in love and been in relationships but up untill this point I felt I had experienced everything and was just waiting to bump into Mrs. Right now im scared to death i found her and im screwed!!! help??