My husband prevents me from sleeping. Help!
June 29, 2010 6:15 AM Subscribe
Help me get a better night's sleep sharing a bed with my husband.
posted by MorningPerson to Health & Fitness (69 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
My husband and I have been happily married for 13 years. But, I am still having problems sharing a bed - even after all these years. I've always been a light sleeper. I like it cool. I like it dark. I like lots of space. And, it must be quiet.
My husband falls asleep and stays asleep easily, snores, puts off a lot of heat and loves to snuggle. There are nights I spend in bed, wide awake, his arm and leg tossed over me, with him snorting in my face. Sometimes, I want to cry because I just can't sleep.
I've talked to him about giving me a little more space to sleep, but he acts hurt my the notion that "I don't want to be close to him in bed". He says he sleeps better when he can feel me next to him. We've also medically addressed the snoring, but unfortunately he has some issues that just can't be easily addressed (won't go into details). But in short, he does not have sleep apnea and those Breath Right strips *do not* work for him.
We have a very comfortable mattress (queen size - our room is not large enough for a king) and fabulous sheets. I go to bed about an hour before him to try and get a jump start on falling asleep before he comes to bed.
I sleep great when he's away on business travel, so I'm pretty sure this is just a bed-sharing issue. It's also not a relationship issue. I love my husband and enjoy being close and affectionate - just not when I am trying to sleep.
I'm so tired. I need sleep. Help!