Sorry? Sorry?! That's it?!
June 28, 2010 4:47 PM Subscribe
Last week, broke up with BF of 7 months (we're both single parents, each divorced 5-7 years, in our 40's). Totally right thing to do. As a couple we were terrific, but it became clear over time that his child (10) had some severe behavioral difficulties (disabilities, brattiness, bad parenting, who could say) that he would complain constantly about but ultimately, he did nothing to change it.
I'm a special education teacher (and one of own my kids has a neurological disability), and he had been asking me for advice since we got together about ways to help his kid. He knew her behavior was off the wall (and it was).
Turns out that after he thanked me for all my advice and said he was getting her kid evaluated, he did nothing.
After a particularly horrific weekend with all our our kids together (she went berserk several times, hit me, screamed often, refused to get out of the car...it was bad), I tried to be as nice as possible but described her as a kid in crisis, said he needed to get her help NOW and that me and my kids could no longer be around them because it was too upsetting.
And this was completely the right thing to do.
His response was one word: "Sorry." That's it. For some reason, I'm having a harder time with this response than anything else.
What is someone thinking with a response like that? Sorry?
I'm a special education teacher (and one of own my kids has a neurological disability), and he had been asking me for advice since we got together about ways to help his kid. He knew her behavior was off the wall (and it was).
Turns out that after he thanked me for all my advice and said he was getting her kid evaluated, he did nothing.
After a particularly horrific weekend with all our our kids together (she went berserk several times, hit me, screamed often, refused to get out of the car...it was bad), I tried to be as nice as possible but described her as a kid in crisis, said he needed to get her help NOW and that me and my kids could no longer be around them because it was too upsetting.
And this was completely the right thing to do.
His response was one word: "Sorry." That's it. For some reason, I'm having a harder time with this response than anything else.
What is someone thinking with a response like that? Sorry?
This post was deleted for the following reason: I am sorry about what happened in your relationship but this is not really a question. -- jessamyn
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