Help me attract available men please!
June 26, 2010 5:18 PM Subscribe
Please help me attract available men!
posted by fan_of_all_things_small to human relations (13 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
For the past 3.5 years I've found myself unable to attract available men. (I'm a hetro female for the record)
It started happening after I got burned pretty badly by an online crush who turned out to be lying about a lot of things, so I wonder if there isn't something inside of me that never recovered from the experience.
He had talked to me everyday on skype for months, flew across the world to see me, I helped him talk with his publisher in this country, he became belligerent when I admitted my feelings for him, and told me he had never been attracted to me in the first place. My relationship with him was one of the first times I believed I could trust someone so I had a hard time getting over it.
I have little trouble attracting anyone, but they are always unavailable for a real relationship; either emotionally unavailable, or married, or don't want a commitment, or only want to string me along.
Sometimes I really wonder if I'm broadcasting something that says "only interested in sex." My clothing and makeup are not overly sexual, so I don't think it's this, although I've noticed an increase in men who only want to sleep with me since dyeing my hair blonde and moving to a big city.
Is it me who is giving off the vibe that I'm unavailable? How on earth can I fix it? Or could I just be having a run of bad luck? Thanks for your advice!