Between my mom and a hard place
June 23, 2010 6:35 PM Subscribe
My grandmother treats my mother like garbage...but wants to be friends with me!
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My grandmother has been messing with my mother's head for half her life. For years I've been watching my mom cry because of my grandma's verbal abuse. Their relationship remains "cordial" but distanced.
Now my grandmother is trying to have a somewhat functional relationship with me: chatty, "how is school going" kind of interaction. While I boil with anger when I think about the way she's hurt my mom, I also know it hurts my grandma's feelings when I don't want to talk to her. I am at a loss for words with her. I can't pretend that I don't think her treatment of my mother is awful, but fighting with her about it doesn't accomplish much, because she has a completely different opinion of what's happened between her and my mom.
What would y'all do in my situation?