Scared and alone
June 21, 2010 7:03 AM Subscribe
I’m in a pretty desperate situation at the moment and apart from going to the doctors and probably receiving medication and a referral to a counsellor (with a long waiting list), I have nowhere else to turn.
posted by anonymous to human relations (16 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
So, where do I start? Its a family problem. I am extremely upset about how my family are treating me and the emotional abuse I have suffered for years.
I have two older brothers and one older sister, and throughout my life, they have emotionally and sometimes physically abused me. I am ashamed as I haven’t been able to stand up to them. I have tried to retaliate, but their nastiness and ability to keep up with the intimidation, abusive remarks, is more than I can handle. I’ve never been strong enough to cope with all of them. I spent most of my childhood/teenage years in misery. I’m now 35, and they continue to treat me like a piece of shit. Most of the time they ignore me, but when they do speak to me, its some kind of abusive remark. I avoid any family gatherings and am fearful to visit my mum’s house (where my sister lives also) as when I do go, my sister will start verbally attacking me and telling me to leave. I’ve kind of accepted that they all dislike me and have no respect for me. What is really upsetting is that my mum is siding with them and has more or less cut me off completely. She makes up things and tells them things I have said which I haven’t. She kicks up a fuss if I argue about anything with her and feeds back to them, only for me to get more abuse and loatheing. Before my sister moved back home, I was visiting my mum everyday, taking the dog out (which I have brought up from being a puppy), cooking her tea, cleaning her house.
I don’t have any support network and am feeling so low and depressed. This situation has never changed and has only got worse. I have decided that the best thing may be to move away from the area and cut myself off completely. I feel so bitter about the way I have been treated and am looking for advice on how to deal with this.