Am I a bad sister?
June 17, 2010 7:27 PM Subscribe
Is it a horrible breach of family trust that I shared an email from my sister to me with my husband?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (37 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My sister (Jessica) and I are not on good terms. We had had a very fragile relationship for about a year in which hurtful things were said by both of us, over email and in person. At one point, in the midst of a larger, seriously stressful back and forth on email, she said some things to me that I found particularly awful and since my husband (George) had been hearing my side of the story throughout the debacle and was currently sitting next to me when I received the email, I had him read it. This email also contained some disparaging remarks about George's brother, Ian. George read the email, on my invitation, and then not only was upset on my behalf for what Jessica said to me but was also offended by what she said about Ian.
Even though I asked him not to, George emailed Jessica to suggest that though he hoped she and I could work things out she should leave Ian out of the discussion. And then all hell broke loose. Jessica claims that I broke a sacred sisterly bond by sharing the email with my husband. My main objective was to give George a better understanding of my reasons for being so upset with Jessica and feel like I should be able to share anything with my husband. My family (father, brother, etc) think that I was disloyal to my sister for having showed George the email. Did I screw up?