How can I stop feeling these pointless feelings?
May 30, 2010 1:13 PM Subscribe
How can I truly be happy for someone when they married someone I strongly dislike? (Oh, and I happened to have feelings for the married guy)
posted by anonymous to human relations (11 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Married guy and I have never done anything physical, we have always just been good friends for a long time. After a lapse in communication, he contacts me and ends up getting together with a woman I thought was my friend at the time. Long story short, I stopped hanging out with them when she started being behind the scenes rude to me, (backhanded compliments, stuff like that) There was no dramatic blow up, I just did the fade out. I still think about him however. I know he's married obviously he loves her! They have a baby on the way and I am happy for them but I still think about him. It was hard to admit to myself that I am jealous because I don't think she deserves him but ultimately he chose her to marry and I am having a hard time not feeling sad about that. I know it's selfish and stupid. I have NEVER let on about how I feel to him or anyone else, and I would never ever ever tell him since he's married. Has anyone else been through a similar situation?
*we live in a small town and all that goes with it. Can't afford to move. :/