How to respond to fat talk
May 24, 2010 7:31 AM Subscribe
What is the proper response to people who constantly make comments about how fat they are -- and they are normal weight? I am overweight.
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (29 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I was tasked to do a project with some women. All of them are late twenties to mid-thirties. All of them are between 5'6" and 5'8" and I would guess 120-140 pounds, not obese or anything. Whenever we get together to work on this project it usually starts out with a discussion of how fat they are, how "bad" they are for eating this or that (I don't subscribe to the belief that food is a moral issue--unless you are withholding it from someone who is really starving.) Or how they're not exercising properly. Or a discussion/nutritional analysis of whatever snack whoever is hosting has put out.
A little about me. Because of hypothyroidism (I was treated with radioactive iodine twenty-some years back) and lithium maintenance therapy (at least in part) I am overweight. Not everyone who is hypothyroid or takes lithium struggles, and I'm not saying it's impossible to lose weight--harder for some than others, perhaps. I recently read here about a movement to be healthy at any weight and that's pretty much what I try and live. My blood pressure is 110/70, my cholesterol hovers around 180, I try to walk and swim several times a week. I went to a therapist to work on self-acceptance, but she just accused me of being a compulsive eater (she was overweight herself so I figure it was just projection on her part). I have friends who lost the last 20 pounds after going off the meds, but being insane is not an option in my world. I'm trying to say after twenty-some years I'm gradually coming to accept myself, in spite of society's pressures on women to be Barbie dolls.
Then I go and hear this!
This project will look great on my c.v. but I'm stumped as to what, if anything, to tell these women who are so insecure about their bodies.
I hope I picked the right category. I wanted to say Beauty.
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