Should I stay or should I go?
May 18, 2010 12:04 PM Subscribe
Should I fly the family coop?
posted by anonymous to Home & Garden (41 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I am trying to decide whether to move out of my parents' house and into a condo. My parents recently inherited a condo. They have offered to let me live there and not charge me rent and also cover the assessments. I'm an only child and way too old to still be living with my parents.
The condo is far less than ideal though in many ways. I simply don't make enough money to afford my own place. I have tried unsuccessfully to attain more lucrative employment, but have failed in that. At this point, I am so discouraged that I have a difficult time believing I ever will find a higher paying job (despite having an advanced degree).
The pros and cons of the condo are the following:
-No bathtub - just has a shower. I would have to give up baths.
-No in unit washer/dryer. I have spoken to the condo association and they will not allow washer/dryers of any kind (including those little European washer/dryer combos). The building has washer/dryers, but communal laundry rooms freak me out
-Located about 25 minutes from my office (currently live about 15 minutes from my office)
-I don't care for the neighborhood at all
-No outdoor space. I love reading outside in the summer.
-No parking for friends - The condo is in a very busy area and my friends would have nowhere to park. I would have a parking space, but there is no guest parking.
-Currently, my boyfriend lives 2 blocks from me and we can spontaneously see each other whenever we want.
-I have a dog and that would mean that I would have to come home right after work (which is fine in itself, but would mean my boyfriend would always have to come by me on the weekdays since I wouldn't want to leave a dog alone for hours on end. Currently, my parents and I share doggy responsibilities)
-The condo is large and has a great view
-I would love to have my own space and have peace and quiet
-I could adopt a cat - My dad hates cats, so I would finally be able to have my own kitty.
-I could feel more like an adult
-I would feel like I'm leading a more socially acceptable lifestyle (I'm a run o' the mill American, so there's no cultural imperative for me to stay at home)
Other mitigating factors:
-In my parents' house, I have my own den with my own TV plus my own bathroom and bedroom. There's plenty of room for 3 people in the house. We basically share a kitchen.
-I go to my boyfriend's place most days after work and spend the night on the weekends, so I'm not at "home" very often (we aren't ready to live together though)
Given all these conditions, do you think it's worth it for me to move out? My boyfriend says I should do whatever I think would be best for me, but I need some advice here.