Undecided about how to progress with my life ambitions, relationships and career. Please advise? Thank you!
May 8, 2010 11:54 AM Subscribe
I feel like I am at a cross-road and need to decide soon what actions to take for the future. Please help me decide!
posted by servix to Human Relations (11 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Basically to recap the last six months of my life:
After graduating at a business college with a degree in Computer Networking and Engineering, I decided to take a small break and went to Arizona to see my parents. Whilst I was there I ended up meeting a guy I have been interested in dating, we've talked online for probably 2 years. We met up in Las Vegas, and it turned out due to work he could only spend one evening with me. Well suffice, we had an amazing evening and the next morning he left back to California where he lives normally.
I headed back to Alberta shortly after that and got a job at a network of luxury car dealerships as the company "IT Specialist" in-charge of the websites and also all the computer systems. From the get go I never liked my boss, he was always rude to me and had a bad energy about him but I was a trooper and stuck it out as long as I could. I decided to resign two weeks ago and am finally out in the world again. In those four months, I managed to bank $12 000. I'm at a stage now where I would really like a change. The truth is, since I have lived in Canada my entire life I want to try someplace with a more tropical climate. I'd love to be-able to learn how to surf and generally am keen to spend more time outdoors. I'd also like to have a small but nice apartment for myself. Since I graduated college I've lived with my parents so I don't really know how challenging this goal is going to be. My resume is pretty decent now so I am hoping getting a job isn't going to be impossible.
My parents have second houses and are retired in Phoenix Arizona. Although I like it more there then I do in Canada, I still would rather be near a beach, the dry air really gets to me for some reason. I would also like to find a city with a population between 100 000 - 300 000. California seems like it would be a good compromise to what I want, however I have mixed feelings about going there because I know that its a very competitive market and also a expensive one.
I ended up talking with that boy I met in Las Vegas recently. He's telling me that he will be leaving for his work to Europe and won't be back to California for 8 months to a year so he would really like to see me again before he goes. I also feel kind of unsettled about this because last time he promised me we would be able to spend a week together and it turned into a few short hours on last minute notice. Also, after our amazing time together he showed no ambition for me to move closer to him or explore the theory that we could someday have a relationship in person. He tells me he loves me and misses me but it just seems like he has no ambition for a real relationship. If I go, I'm going to end up missing him all over again and in the back of my mind I know that whilst he is away he will no doubt be having sex with other people and that thought upsets me.
Onto my questions,
1. Considering my education and work experience how likely is it that I will be-able to obtain employment in another country given the current economic climate?
2. Are there other states/countries that are easier to obtain work in then California with the kind of characteristics I'm looking for?
3. What should I do about this relationship? am I over analyzing it or do you think I am right and need to cut him loose even though it makes me quite sad?