Seeking advice and resources on parenting young daughters
April 29, 2010 12:31 PM Subscribe
It's a girl! Enter massive anxiety over how to navigate gender in my parenting.
posted by kitcat to Society & Culture (31 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
My husband and I just found out that our (first) little belly monkey is a girl. Yay!
Onto the problem: however ridiculous this may be, I am full of worry over how to parent a daughter. This kind of worry does not occur to my husband (lucky him - and he'll be the world's best dad). But as for me, I can't stop thinking about all the insidious little ways society and even we, her most well-wishing parents, are going to start programming gendered expectations into her, beginning immediately: with the decor of the nursery, the colour of her sleepers, the tones in which we speak to her, the words we use...
How can I be an appropriately 'feminist' mother? What do I need to know? What do I do about Barbie and Disney princesses? Will her attraction to 'girly' things be natural or socially constructed? Scanning the bookstore shelves, I see numerous books on raising boys, but none on raising girls. Help!
Please supply your thoughts, reading suggestions and other useful resources.