Fix or end romance when romance fades? Need relevant research.
April 24, 2010 9:05 AM Subscribe
I need a research-supported process for deciding whether to fix or end a romantic relationship where the romance has faded.
posted by sninctown to human relations (19 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
All the advice I've found so far seems to assume you know whether to fix or end a (long-term, serious, romantic/sexual) relationship when the romantic feelings have faded, passion has gone, etc.
In my situation, my feelings aren't clear, and even if they were I don't rely solely on my feelings for big decisions like this. My bias is that people are reluctant to understand what causes their feelings, and miss out on opportunities to be happier that way.
(I'm asking because I was just broken up with and I'm busy figuring out what to do differently in the future, and because research-based support for "yes, you should break up" would help me accept this. I am not a special snowflake.)
--Books, articles, etc. with good guidance on how to decide whether to rekindle the romance, based on up-to-date research, with research results included, and with a process for evaluating a relationship.
Less ideal but helpful:
--The process you use personally, or your personal data points.
--Research-supported results that answer part of the question.