I need a different perspective on what I should do...
April 17, 2010 12:44 PM Subscribe
So I've been seeing this girl with a fiancé, and I'm looking for some advice here...
posted by Cubanisimo to Human Relations (45 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Well I've been with this girl who's had a fiancé for about 3 months now. He proposed after graduating since she was moving away to get a better job, like 12 hours away. It seems that over the past 3 years she's been with 2 other guys (each at different times) all the while staying with her fiancé.
So my dilemma is that now I'm the 3rd guy in this whole ordeal. We established early on that she could sleep with him and that I could sleep with whoever I wanted as long as i Didn't let her know. I already let her know that if we were still seeing each other in about 6 months that she would have to break it off with her fiancé. The thing that troubled me was that all she said was "ok" as if she were trying to avoid the subject.
We talk to each other quite a bit, and when we hang out it's kinda like the day just goes by really fast. I'm just trying to figure out why she's doing this. Even her co-workers know about this and it's an acceptable thing to stay with her fiancé and see other men.
I will say that I've confronted her about this whole thing and she says that he's a safe bet. She's always had this thing where she wants to get a big house and have kids. I'm not sure if it's me but it seems like it doesn't matter who the guy is to her, as long as she gets that in the end.
My biggest question is can I even "trust" her? Or maybe what should I do about the whole thing? I'm looking for a female perspective or some help here on why she's doing this... I know if I were to become the safe bet I'm not sure I would be able to trust her.