My girlfriend has anxiety, how can I help?
April 11, 2010 6:12 PM Subscribe
My girlfriend goes through spurts of bad depression and anxiety every two to five weeks. It often comes with stress from her job or something like moving apartments. Things can be extremely well between us for weeks before, but once she gets down, her life sucks, I suck, everything sucks, and then she wants me gone. Things always get better when shes out of the rut. How do I know what are her real feelings and what is just being depressed?
posted by mewmewmew to human relations (22 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Shes currently in a rut. I try to tell her how amazing she is, but she twists everything i say into attacks against herself. I love her more than anything and don't want to lose her because of a spurt of depression.
We are back and forth between really good times, talking about long term plans, and these episodes, where "I don't know her", and she basically doesn't want to be in a relationship. Is it selfish of me to assume that she really does love me and this is just the depression talking? I really, really, love this person and don't want to lose them. But she is a beautiful bird and I don't want to keep her in a cage. I just can't go the rest of my life worrying I did the wrong thing.