Costume parties while fat and female
April 10, 2010 4:33 PM Subscribe
Beach party costume while fat and female? Costume parties in general?
posted by arcticwoman to Grab Bag (30 answers total)
I have to go to a beach costume party later this month (it's a combined birthday party for my wife and two other friends) and most of the group has decided that it would be great to have it beach party themed. I'm fat, and exceedingly uncomfortable with bathing suits. Anyone can look great if they wear the right clothes, and I am pretty careful about wearing clothes that make me look great - however there is no part of "beach party" that I could see as being anything other than humiliating.
I have considered asking my friends to change the theme, but that would mean giving them way more information about my self-esteem than I am comfortable with. Also, it would make them feel bad for me, and I certainly don't want that. Similarly, I don't want to just refuse to wear a costume. Kill joy.
Not going isn't really an issue. I don't think I really deserve to be punished for being fat, and besides, it's my wife's b-day party too.
So: what costume ideas do you have for me? I am not the type to wear goofy or jokey costumes so "beach ball" is out. I want to look good and join in on the fun.
Also: what are some fun fat-girl-friendly ideas I can suggest for next time? There must be some theme-costumes that chubbies can rock.c