How do I make the best of a bad puppy situation?
April 9, 2010 1:56 PM Subscribe
Bought a puppy. Fell on hard times. Cannot take care of this dog right now and can't figure out what to to do. Help me feel less awful about this.
posted by anonymous to pets & animals (18 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Anon solely because I feel like such a terrible person.
I bought a puppy I'd been researching for years. I was laid off the very next day. For whatever reason (guilt, humility, who knows) I felt an obligation to the breeder and the puppy to keep her, thinking that maybe my newfound free time would be more of a blessing than a burden for the both of us. Well, simply put, with the pup's separation anxiety and my own stress from the unemployment has led to this absolutely terrible mix of frustration with each other.
The first week and a half I tried to grin and bear it, but it's become too much and I find myself stressing out way more than I should be and leaving all of the responsibility with my partner - who is less than thrilled (it should be noted I moved in with him temporarily because of my state).
I have been in contact with the breeder this entire time but I haven't mentioned my job loss or the stress. The pup also has an unforeseen health issue that might lead to complete blindness - something I wouldn't have been prepared for even if I hadn't lost my job. The breeder has already mentioned trading my pup in for one that doesn't have the health problem (what!?), but that isn't what I'd want at all. Things just hit the fan, and fast, and this poor pup is the last one that deserves any of this.
I've given the dog her final shots, she's got toys and all of the other necessities, but it would be another few weeks until I can drive her back home. I'm concerned that even if things settle down a bit before then that her health issues are still going to be an issue for me, and "trading" just seems wrong, especially considering the health issue is hereditary and might possibly develop in the other pups.
I've read several forums that insist that the breeders are going to be understanding if I want to give her back, but I'm still worried. Have you ever gone through something like this? Are you a breeder who has dealt with something similar? What are some things I can do in the meantime to help both the puppy and I deal with our sudden life changes? And finally, is it going to be even worse for her to go back home (both her parents and a brother will be there) two months after the fact or would she be okay? I don't like having to stretch this out, and at the end of the day I'm looking out for her best interest and not my own (as terrible of an idea as that probably is).
And bonus points for any little things I can do for my partner to thank him for really coming through and picking up my slack while I'm in this funk and out of funds.