Was it too soon to ask about his feeling?
April 8, 2010 1:54 PM Subscribe
Relationship-break-up-post-mortem filter: Did I objectively screw this up or was it just a unique to the person I was with.
posted by anonymous to human relations (30 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I'd been seeing a guy for about 4 weeks. Things seemed to be going well: we got along, had interesting conversations, good sex and good times otherwise as well. (We met online through a dating site, if that matters.) In a late night conversation, I asked if he was seeing anyone else, because I wanted to decide whether I should continue to meet other guys or not and I didn't want to feel like a fool for going exclusive if that wasn't what we were doing. He said he wasn't seeing anyone else, but primarily because that would be "difficult scheduling-wise", then avoided contact for the next three days before meeting me to dump me.
I don't care about him anymore, truly, but I want to get a reality-check for future relationships. (This was only my second 'relationship' two years after the break up of a nine year relationship, so I feel my instincts may not be right/in sync with how others see things.) Was it completely out of line to ask about exclusivity at this point? Or to need a relationship status check? Would the average guy find this weird or intimidating or was it just this guy?
(Anonymous because I feel lame for having to ask this.)