Gut was wrong
April 2, 2010 9:24 PM Subscribe
How can I keep trusting my gut after it turned out to be so wrong?
posted by cheesecake to human relations (22 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Last year I dated a guy briefly. His behavior cast red flags in my mind (flaky, evasive). But my gut felt so sure about him. I had an intuitive certainty that he could make me so happy, if we got past the initial hurdle.
After a few weeks, his behavior showed no sign of improvement, and I ended things. We stayed friends. He has a new girlfriend, but is still hitting on me. I see now that he is a sketchy guy, who does not treat women well.
The problem is that I'm now scared to trust my gut. People say "listen to the little voice in your head" and "don't go against your intuition". But those are what led me to keep dating this guy despite the warning signs.
Recently my gut is drawn to a different guy. How do you trust your gut again, after it was proven to be horribly wrong? Are there cases where I should let my logical mind (and/or other people's advice) overrule my gut?