Help with sexual dysfunction with a partner
March 31, 2010 8:54 PM Subscribe
I have issues having intercourse with my partner. Everything starts out, and erect. Foreplay is no problem, but I have a tendency to start going limp during intercourse.
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So I am in my late early thirties, and I have very little real world sexual experience. I was married for a long time, and sex between me and my wife was never very good, it was also very very infrequent.
For most of my life sex has been a lonesome action. I have no trouble taking matters into my own hands, and I function well while on my own.
I should say that on my own I have explored a lot of fantasies and
found some fetishes that work quite well to get me aroused.
I now have a new partner and we have been together for a while,
and we try to have sex once or twice a week. I sometimes have
trouble getting an erection, but much more frequently everything
works well with foreplay and such, but after the intercourse begins
I go increasingly limp. Interestingly I can still ejaculate when semi
soft, but I do not stimulate my partner in the same manner.
I have tried a cock ring, with some limited success but in general it
kinda hurts and the last couple of times it was not efficient at
maintaining my erection.
My partner is understanding and I appreciate that, but I feel I should
be able to have sex once or twice a week with my new partner.
She is very attractive and all.
I have tried to bring up some of my fetishes but she is not at all
interested in that type of scene.
So I have a few questions:
1) Any advice any can answer in general
2) Is it my many years of masturbation that is keeping me from enjoying
3) Is it at all common to have trouble sustaining an erection during
4) Is it common to go a bit limp prior to ejaculating?
5) How weird is it to be a guy an not really have really strong urges
to have sex with a woman.