We've been going out for three months and suddenly he's starting to freak out. He's got all the symptoms of the classic cold feet you see in the movies. Our relationship is still very new but good, and loving, but he's building up all this irrational stress about being in a committed relationship is cutting off his options and he's afraid he'll hurt me because he can't trust himself if he's tempted.
I'm a 27 year old female with lots of dating experience and I've lived and learned and know what I want, I'm also very open and understanding (sometimes to my detriment) and with much more advanced maturity. He's a 33 year old male with limited dating experience, two long terms, and about a two year dry spell before me. We've had some really good, honest conversations and while everything is going swimmingly with us, he's scared by how much he's opening up to me and letting me in. He playfully acknowledges he's a baby, and selfish, and crazy. There's no one else he wants to be with, and he doesn't want to lose me, it's just the idea of imposed restrictions. He's the one who first brought up that he didn't want me to see other people, and wanted to just see each other. I've tried to explain that both men and women get attracted to other people, but just because I meet some hot sexy guy, doesn't mean I have to worry I'm going to cheat- I weigh the option of a possible meaningless something with a stranger versus a loving relationship and I rationally know the correct choice. I'm not a cheater, or jealous so it's a little hard for me to see his fears as anything but madness that needs to be overcome in order to grow and enjoy a real relationship, right? So, as this seems like a typical young guy needs to grow up and be a rational caring adult, how can I help him? Or can I? Or should I DTMFA?
I looked through some old threads, and this one
was very helpful regarding infidelity, but I thought this also might be helpful for others who encounter guys like this.