March 11, 2010 8:15 AM Subscribe
Is this relationship doomed?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (59 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I love my girlfriend. But her ex-boyfriend is apparently a "part of her family". They broke up years ago, but here's the kicker. All three of us work together. They sleep at each other's homes as friends. She openly admits that she loves him.
I'm fairly sure there is nothing sexual going on here, but she will go out of her way to try and avoid any discussion about this topic. I love her so much, and when we spend time together things are so amazing. But I just find it so hard to deal with the fact that she has sleepovers with her ex. And I feel so guilty asking questions like where does he sleep, and I feel like she doesn't empathise with me on this. To her it's just a friend etc. And every time I raise it, it becomes an issue about how much I trust her.
And now, because I've told her I had a problem with it, she has started lying to me about it. By omission admittedly. I texted her, and she didn't reply, and I didn't realise he had stayed with her til I saw them in at the same time at work the next morning.
And she seems to be looking for reasons to be annoyed at me. Things that aren't even my fault, or little misunderstandings that she tries to take as proof that I don't care about her.
Is my gut right? Is this relationship doomed?