nice gay genes... where'd you get em?
March 8, 2010 2:25 PM Subscribe
queers of all kinds: what made you gay?
lots of people feel they were born gay. totally awesome.
then other people feel more that the world made them gay, that they became gay, or even (and at the risk of sounding right wing, but i'm not) that they chose to be gay (queerness as political AND sexual orientation, which is just as hot hot hot!).
in short: if you don't think you were born gay, what were the experiences you had that shaped you into having queer desires? anything, big or small: ie. that your mom loved kd lang. your parent's awful relationship. feminism. sucking on life-saver popsicles. anything.
lots of people feel they were born gay. totally awesome.
then other people feel more that the world made them gay, that they became gay, or even (and at the risk of sounding right wing, but i'm not) that they chose to be gay (queerness as political AND sexual orientation, which is just as hot hot hot!).
in short: if you don't think you were born gay, what were the experiences you had that shaped you into having queer desires? anything, big or small: ie. that your mom loved kd lang. your parent's awful relationship. feminism. sucking on life-saver popsicles. anything.
This post was deleted for the following reason: Chatfilter. This really isn't the sort of question askme is in a position to answer. -- cortex
I can't answer from personal experience, but you may be interested in this New Yorker article on lesbian separatists in the 1970s.
posted by sallybrown at 2:30 PM on March 8, 2010
posted by sallybrown at 2:30 PM on March 8, 2010
God.
posted by anti social order at 2:39 PM on March 8, 2010
posted by anti social order at 2:39 PM on March 8, 2010
Just an observation...the guys I know who are gay seem to have been born that way while many of the lesbian/bi women I know seem to have "developed" into lesbians (ie: they loved guys, then changed to love women, then back to guys...) Not all women of course, some seem to have been born gay as well. Culture may play a part as well. In Arab culture, people see being gay as WRONG...like you can get killed for being gay so the experimentation part of developing your sexuality is definitely curtailed. While in some Southeast Asian cultures, gay men (who BTW want straight men, not other gay men as their partners) are considered the "third sex" and it is more OK culturally to experiment with being gay or gay leaning.
p.s I was born straight and can't even imagine going gay (ick) so I am assuming the people who felt they were born gay would feel the same way about partners of the opposite sex (also ick).
posted by MsKim at 2:40 PM on March 8, 2010
p.s I was born straight and can't even imagine going gay (ick) so I am assuming the people who felt they were born gay would feel the same way about partners of the opposite sex (also ick).
posted by MsKim at 2:40 PM on March 8, 2010
How is this questions even remotely answerable? It's been pretty well proven that being gay isn't a choice and nobody yet knows why some people are and some aren't.
posted by youcancallmeal at 2:41 PM on March 8, 2010
posted by youcancallmeal at 2:41 PM on March 8, 2010
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posted by the latin mouse at 2:30 PM on March 8, 2010