Mixing work with online dating
March 4, 2010 5:42 PM Subscribe
I am on an online dating site. Someone at my work emails me. Do I respond?
We have only met a few times and that was several months ago but we work in the same building. He emailed me and gave no indication that he recognizes me. There is a 50-50 chance we will work together on a project in the future.
Do I just ignore the email or do I respond?
If I respond, is it bad to admit there is an interest?
In case it matters, I'm a late 30s female.
We have only met a few times and that was several months ago but we work in the same building. He emailed me and gave no indication that he recognizes me. There is a 50-50 chance we will work together on a project in the future.
Do I just ignore the email or do I respond?
If I respond, is it bad to admit there is an interest?
In case it matters, I'm a late 30s female.
How does your workplace feel about employee dating?
posted by fairytale of los angeles at 5:51 PM on March 4, 2010
posted by fairytale of los angeles at 5:51 PM on March 4, 2010
workplace policy is important. check that, first.
then gutcheck if you could work effectively with someone after an awkward date or who actively "did you wrong", because there's always the possibility things could go awry even if they work out for a bit.
lastly, i'd observe him (casually; don't stalk him) at work to see how he treats other people and if he's the type of person i'd like to get to know better.
if you don't want to date him after one or all of those checks, don't write back. if he ever asks about it, just say you don't date co-workers.
otherwise, have at.
posted by batmonkey at 1:50 AM on March 5, 2010
then gutcheck if you could work effectively with someone after an awkward date or who actively "did you wrong", because there's always the possibility things could go awry even if they work out for a bit.
lastly, i'd observe him (casually; don't stalk him) at work to see how he treats other people and if he's the type of person i'd like to get to know better.
if you don't want to date him after one or all of those checks, don't write back. if he ever asks about it, just say you don't date co-workers.
otherwise, have at.
posted by batmonkey at 1:50 AM on March 5, 2010
Back when I was working in the typical office-environment, I got some sage advice from one of my earliest bosses - he called it the work-dating rule:
I don't eat where I shit and I don't shit where I eat.
Kinda obscene, but I took the advice to heart and not dating in the work-place always worked out for me. Then I got into consulting and that crazy project-based lifestyle blew all that right out.
posted by allkindsoftime at 4:23 AM on March 5, 2010 [1 favorite]
I don't eat where I shit and I don't shit where I eat.
Kinda obscene, but I took the advice to heart and not dating in the work-place always worked out for me. Then I got into consulting and that crazy project-based lifestyle blew all that right out.
posted by allkindsoftime at 4:23 AM on March 5, 2010 [1 favorite]
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