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February 14, 2010 8:42 PM Subscribe
Should I tell my dear friend, who is currently undergoing fertility treatments, that I'm trying to get pregnant too? How?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (26 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My beloved college roommate recently confided to me that she's gone to a fertility specialist after trying to get pregnant for a year. We are both 31. We live on opposite ends of the country.
I'm a terrible waffler about life decisions and have talked to her (before she told me about her fertility troubles) about my mixed feelings about babies and spawning and whatnot. However, shortly before she told me about her troubles, my husband and I had decided that it's rapidly nearing the right time for us to start trying to get pregnant.
I hadn't planned to tell anyone that we were trying, but I will tell her if that's the right thing to do. (She is, after all, sharing with me many of the sordid details of her treatments, as girlfriends do.) I almost want to delay our trying till she conceives. (I know that's insane ... right? but it does speak to my intense fondness for her.)
Now that I know that she's undergoing fertility treatments, should I tell her that we're trying? What should I say? Should I just try to conceive and tell her when I've hit the magical three-month mark when people usually start announcing?