How to keep up the spirit?
February 13, 2010 12:59 PM Subscribe
Clubfilter: When you're just not feeling it, what can you do?
Just got in from a semi-boring night of dancing. I love dancing, but I could not find a groove, a rythym, an anything that worked. Am I relegated to the sidelines for the rest of the night in this scenario? 21/male.
Just got in from a semi-boring night of dancing. I love dancing, but I could not find a groove, a rythym, an anything that worked. Am I relegated to the sidelines for the rest of the night in this scenario? 21/male.
try requesting a song that always gets you going. not sure what kind of clubs you go to but back in the day when I was stomping on peoples lawns djs would usually be happy to play requests that were concordant with the "theme" or style of that club.
posted by supermedusa at 1:04 PM on February 13, 2010
posted by supermedusa at 1:04 PM on February 13, 2010
I tend to either get drunk or go home.
posted by craven_morhead at 1:04 PM on February 13, 2010 [3 favorites]
posted by craven_morhead at 1:04 PM on February 13, 2010 [3 favorites]
Grab a drink and go chat with friends. (I don't dance in clubs, so this is my standard club behavior...)
posted by mollymayhem at 1:41 PM on February 13, 2010
posted by mollymayhem at 1:41 PM on February 13, 2010
make a request, like supermedusa said.
if that's not possible, you have to wait a long time, or it doesn't work, groove on the other aspects of the experience, like the flow of the room, how other folks are dressed or dancing, or what kind of set the DJ is going for. those can sometimes get you hooked in, but, if not, they can provide a different sort of entertainment.
if it's still not working out, book and go do something else.
posted by batmonkey at 1:59 PM on February 13, 2010 [1 favorite]
if that's not possible, you have to wait a long time, or it doesn't work, groove on the other aspects of the experience, like the flow of the room, how other folks are dressed or dancing, or what kind of set the DJ is going for. those can sometimes get you hooked in, but, if not, they can provide a different sort of entertainment.
if it's still not working out, book and go do something else.
posted by batmonkey at 1:59 PM on February 13, 2010 [1 favorite]
Best answer: Kinda a lot of missing information for me to answer this properly, like:
Did you go on your own or did you have friends there too? Was it a familiar club, or one you'd never been to before? Was the music OK but the DJ was ruining it? Did you want to go out in the first place or would it have been better to sit in front of the tv for the night?
I've been caught in any number of the situations outlined. At none of those clubs was I allowed to approach the DJ and ask him to play something I wanted. At some of those clubs I was alone. At some of them a named DJ didn't fulfill the promise. At some of them the drugs failed to work/worked too much that I couldn't enjoy it.
If you have friends, go speak to them, hell, go to speak to some strangers. You never know, you'll make friends with them, they'll agree the night's a bust and you can head out with them for an adventure. People are great like that.
If there's no place you can go, home, toast and a DVD always hits the spot. The next weekend will be right around the corner and that will be whole different kettle of fish.
I agree, dancing is great, and you've reminded me to go out and do some myself.
posted by urbanwhaleshark at 2:16 PM on February 13, 2010
Did you go on your own or did you have friends there too? Was it a familiar club, or one you'd never been to before? Was the music OK but the DJ was ruining it? Did you want to go out in the first place or would it have been better to sit in front of the tv for the night?
I've been caught in any number of the situations outlined. At none of those clubs was I allowed to approach the DJ and ask him to play something I wanted. At some of those clubs I was alone. At some of them a named DJ didn't fulfill the promise. At some of them the drugs failed to work/worked too much that I couldn't enjoy it.
If you have friends, go speak to them, hell, go to speak to some strangers. You never know, you'll make friends with them, they'll agree the night's a bust and you can head out with them for an adventure. People are great like that.
If there's no place you can go, home, toast and a DVD always hits the spot. The next weekend will be right around the corner and that will be whole different kettle of fish.
I agree, dancing is great, and you've reminded me to go out and do some myself.
posted by urbanwhaleshark at 2:16 PM on February 13, 2010
Best answer: You go to another club, and if that doesn't work, you go home. Sometimes you feel it, sometimes you don't.
posted by Metroid Baby at 2:24 PM on February 13, 2010
posted by Metroid Baby at 2:24 PM on February 13, 2010
Best answer: Get to know the party promoters on the circuit.
The solution is what we used to call "Club Hopping" back in the day.
Go find a better scene/DJ. These things tend to migrate (sometimes by the hour) and the Party People usually know where The Party is at.
I'm sure it's the same now, but back when dirt was young... you could find us all opening the night at some small party within a club at 11:00, then on to someplace else, then I kinda remember these back room open bar invite only at 2:00am mini-moments going off once in a while at yet another destination... around 4:00am it's off to the after hours club, again, usually invite only (and illegal - thanks Blue Laws!)
I'm sure it's still true that you can dance 24hrs a day in my old town, if only you know where to go!
Fond, fond memories.
Thanks!
posted by jbenben at 4:47 PM on February 13, 2010
The solution is what we used to call "Club Hopping" back in the day.
Go find a better scene/DJ. These things tend to migrate (sometimes by the hour) and the Party People usually know where The Party is at.
I'm sure it's the same now, but back when dirt was young... you could find us all opening the night at some small party within a club at 11:00, then on to someplace else, then I kinda remember these back room open bar invite only at 2:00am mini-moments going off once in a while at yet another destination... around 4:00am it's off to the after hours club, again, usually invite only (and illegal - thanks Blue Laws!)
I'm sure it's still true that you can dance 24hrs a day in my old town, if only you know where to go!
Fond, fond memories.
Thanks!
posted by jbenben at 4:47 PM on February 13, 2010
My first impulse is to say "fake it til you make it" or "drink more" -- but I don't know that that works for anybody else but me.
If this becomes a macro problem that happens more often than not, my only suggestion is to not go out dancing as much. The problem might just mean that you're bored because you're going out so much. Like just about anything else, if you deny yourself the pleasure, it gets to be a lot more fun once you finally let yourself do it.
(I had to rewrite that last sentence about five times so it didn't unintentionally sound REALLY dirty.)
posted by MCMikeNamara at 5:34 PM on February 13, 2010
If this becomes a macro problem that happens more often than not, my only suggestion is to not go out dancing as much. The problem might just mean that you're bored because you're going out so much. Like just about anything else, if you deny yourself the pleasure, it gets to be a lot more fun once you finally let yourself do it.
(I had to rewrite that last sentence about five times so it didn't unintentionally sound REALLY dirty.)
posted by MCMikeNamara at 5:34 PM on February 13, 2010
Take drugs.
posted by Juicy Avenger at 8:15 PM on February 13, 2010 [1 favorite]
posted by Juicy Avenger at 8:15 PM on February 13, 2010 [1 favorite]
Avoid this situation by carefully researching the club and/or DJ.
posted by the foreground at 9:34 AM on February 15, 2010
posted by the foreground at 9:34 AM on February 15, 2010
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posted by runningwithscissors at 1:04 PM on February 13, 2010