Is Dancing Inherently Romantic?
February 8, 2010 7:22 AM Subscribe
Dancing: how do girls feel about it? And also a problem with my jealousy.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (21 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My girlfriend and I are in different places, both of which provide some opportunity to go out and have some fun, to bars and parties, etc. The relationship is going extremely well and we're super happy together. And we obviously both need to be happy and entertained when we're not together (which is two out of every three weekends)
But, I think my incredibly childish views on what dancing means and what other things mean are getting me in a place where I'm too jealous of the fact that guys at the parties she goes to will dance with her, and when I go to parties, I generally don't dance much, and if I do, with my friends etc., if a girl starts grinding up on me, I nix it (out of a combination of disinterest and inability to dance well).
Girls dance just for fun sometimes, right? It isn't a pairing process? Are there always sexual undertones? In relationships, do girls still dance with other guys, and if so, to what degree, and do guys who aren't as infantile as myself do the same and reciprocate their nonromantic mood?
The fact is that I trust my girlfriend with my life and my heart, and love her dearly, and know the answer is that she's obviously not macking on tons of other guys but just dancing for fun, but it's hard to shake this preconception, especially with my self-admitted tendency towards jealousy (and, yes, that is likely causes by a lack of self-confidence in cases).
So I guess I'm asking you to smack some sense into me, or let me know about any of the principles of this whole dancing situation that I don't know about. I swear, I'm not an uberdork in a basement, but I haven't spent a lot of my life dancing. Also, I'm not a jealous monster, I've thought through and understood other things (like the fact that she has more friendguys than friendgirls), and no longer worry about them at all.