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January 30, 2010 6:36 PM Subscribe
Shopping for not just one, but two therapists. I think. Best way to go about this?
posted by anonymous to human relations (8 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
It's time to bite the bullet and start counseling for my own issues (anxiety, depression, pretty constant bad mood). My partner of 2-1/2 years and I have also decided we need to go to counseling. Some of our relationship troubles are undoubtedly caused by my epic foul moods (which I need to and am committed to working on; see above), but we have some other things to work on too.
Our coverage is through my insurance. There are three in-network therapists locally who are taking new clients. It seems inappropriate or unfair for my personal counselor and our couple's counselor to be the same person. (I'm not sure who it would be unfair to -- me or my SO -- but it sure seems like it would end up screwing someone.)
Am I right in thinking that we need two different people? And any advice on how to go about asking questions to get the right fit for me/us? I guess I'm not sure even how to phrase my real question -- it just seems weird that we'll be picking two of the only three we can see, and I feel like I may bet setting someone up for a conflict of interest. I mean, what if the one I pick for myself is better suited to see us as a couple? If I go to him/her three times, and then *we* start going to him/her because it's a better fit, doesn't that skew things a bit?
[Oh hey, look, there's the anxiety I was telling you about!]
Basically: Any advice on how to best navigate this situation, and how to determine who's the best therapist for the two jobs at hand here? And as for me, I'll be in the position of having to get comfortable with two new counselors. Does it maybe make more sense to space this out a little bit?