I'm conscientious. Some people I work with are not. Help me understand them and keep my cool.
. When I say I'm going to do something, I usually do it thoroughly and on time, without last-minute scrambles. I get a lot of enjoyment out of gracefully and efficiently creating something useful.
When I have to collaborate with someone who's on the far opposite end of the scale, all my enjoyment goes out the window. Part of my pain is just from the hassle caused by their missed deadlines or partial work. But my enjoyment is also affected by the judgmental thoughts that clutter my brain.
I'd like to understand why some people are less responsible so I can deal with them from a position of compassion instead of resentment.
Often, but not always, the person is a man in his 20s or 30s who is smart and charming. He likes to be the center of attention and seems to want everyone's approval, which makes his procrastination, broken promises, and minimal work even harder for me to understand.
According to this Wikipedia article
, about 50% of our conscientiousness is inherited and the rest is environmental.
I took on adult responsibilities as a kid, so there's my environmental excuse for being so danged responsible. What makes some other people end up on the other end of the spectrum?
Helicopter parents? No consequences for their behavior?
I'm not looking for tips like "Give them deadlines that are several days early." I want to stop judging them harshly. Please help me view them with compassion instead of grinding my teeth.