Help me have better sex!
January 10, 2010 11:48 AM Subscribe
My sex life is amazing up until we start to actually have sex. [NSFW inside]
posted by anonymous to human relations (18 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Whenever my partner and I have sex, I
b) feel slight discomfort
c) feel pleasure, but it either causes a sensation overload or it's the pleasure-pain type that doesn't feel good in the long run.
We've only been with each other, so I don't know if he's too big/I'm too small, although there is a foot height difference. We've been trying for over a year now.
We've tried various positions, but the success of each seems to vary with each try.
We've tried stroking my breasts/"lady bits" during the act, but either the position doesn't allow it or it just doesn't feel good because my body goes, "well, this would normally feel good but there's something else weird/foreign/uncomfortable going on (the sex) and you need to address that first," and I get the "sensation overload" feeling.
We've also tried foreplay to the point where I orgasm before he even gets started, and that's become our regular routine. The extra wetness takes care of the pain issue, but I don't really like the "you do me, then I do you" feel of it. I don't mind if I can't have a vaginal orgasm, but I'd like to experience pleasure together and be able to have a clitoral orgasm during the act.
If lube suggestions are in order, I'm allergic to glycerin. We used to use it all the time and it didn't help much.
Just in case stuff, since I'm anonymous:
I've been to the OB/GYN a few times for regular check ups, and we only spoke of this (very) briefly. She asked if he was "really big," I said I wouldn't know. In an unrelated conversation she said that I had a "really tiny" uterus, so maybe that also = tiny vagina?
I don't have an issue with tampons, and I don't use penetrative toys. His fingers always hurt, and although mine don't I can't get myself to feel any vaginal pleasure when I'm by myself, either. It just feels like I'm poking a spongy thing. (I'm perfectly happy with the results of my alone time, just mentioned it in case it'd help with advice.)
So MeFi... what am I/are we/is he doing wrong?
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