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January 6, 2010 11:45 AM Subscribe
How do I deal with the pain of enforced interaction with an ex-friend?
posted by anonymous to human relations (25 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I had a best friend. I mean BEST friend - we were joined at the hip, talked every day, worked together, had kids around the same time and spent inordinate amounts of time together. This lasted seven years. Then, she and her husband separated and she moved back home with her parents. Communication was cut off abruptly. Overtures from me - whether by phone, e-mail, or text, were met with nearly universal silence. So after about a year of this, I gave up. And I got a new job, so we haven't seen each other in months. But now we're both attending a local conference of people in our field and I'm feeling nervous about seeing her. The meeting is small - maybe 15 people - so it's not like I can get lost in the crowd. This feels so silly to me - I'm a 30-year-old woman and should be able to handle it, but I've been lucky enough to never have a friend who hurt me so much before and now I don't know how to process these emotions. I plan to be cordial, of course, but does anyone have any other tips for dealing with a situation like this?