What do I do with my Dad?
January 5, 2010 1:45 AM Subscribe
What I do with a manipulative, probably child molester Dad?
posted by Jazzwick to Human Relations (12 answers total)
It's a long one, I'm sorry, but I am in extreme duress and I need to vent and get help. When I was about ten my Mum and Dad split up, but it was messy. Mum wanted it over and done with as soon as possible, while Dad would tell us stuff like "She wants the police to take me away" while stopping us from calling Mum, and pretending to collapse because 'Mum had taken away all the food'. It probably has screwed us up: I am suffering with extreme OCD, so bad I cannot work or go out (althought that's changing), as well as spontaniusly bursting into tears the moment someone shouts at me or tells me off. My two little sisters, one tried to run away from home, the other is about to get therapy. I think it has to do with Dad.
But he married again, and he had two kids, and for a while, I thought that was good, but then, my Dad and step-mum split up over a year ago. During the time, my step-brother said casually to my step-mum, that 'Dad hurt him', he then said laterthat his 'Bum hurts because Dad put his willy in there'. You'd think the courts would listen, but apparently they're too young to have that counted as evidence. My sister also keeps crying at school, she's not allowed to tell anyone why she's crying. I think it might be to do with Dad. Oh yeah, Dad tried to drunkenly rape my step-mum and punched a hole in the wall, I think that might be what kicked off the divorce.
So basically we've got an extremily manipulative (he smooth talks the pants of anyone), abusive, probably child molester walking the streets freely. Words cannot describe my anger, that my famil is going through, and I need help. Please give me advice.