But I did your dishes..
January 4, 2010 5:18 PM Subscribe
How do I stop getting in awful moods because of my franky kind-of-irritating housemates?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (28 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
(and yes, I think I'll find new people to live with next time the leasing/moving cycle churns, but I've got some months left)
So, I graduated college and am leasing an apartment with two people who I knew to varying degrees before moving in, but with whom had never lived with before. They seemed like decent people, and really are most of the time, but over time various nagging things have come to a head, and now little comments are driving me (and, afterwards, them) mad.
It basically started innocently enough, I missed doing my dishes several times, and one housemate emailed me about this, quite a few times, so that I would wake up to snarky emails about how he was 'disappointed with me,' etc. I understood his point and asked him to stop emailing and I would clean up my act, but he refused to let any minor future infractions pass without a morning email, citing the fact that, without them, I would never learn / change my act. Cue comparisons to irritating mothers, etc.
So, it's gotten somewhat better, except that they continue nagging me, but have started to seriously break the rules without expecting me to mind, leaving their own stuff out, borrowing things without notice, etc. Most recently, well, very recently, before the break, I spent a few hours cleaning the house since i was the last one to leave, and took out the trash twice, cleaned up random stuff including much of theirs. However, one trash bag with nonperishable stuff didn't fit, so it stayed in the apartment. The first thing I hear from roommate a upon returning home is to take out that trash bag.
Yes, they could be pissing in my bed or poisoning my drinks, but this still pisses me off, and I'd like to acquire a thicker skin to deal with them and any other moderately annoying but inner-energy decent people I meet in life. So, my question is, when you're in danger of going into one of those 'erg, they suck so much. so much. they are the worst' lines of thought that just make you angry and do no good, what do you tell yourself to steer clear or spiraling down into nasty emails and a ruined afternoon?